Watch out Justin Timberlake, it’s me who is bringing sexy back!

No, no it is not me bringing it back because I have never had it to begin with…

People tell me I am attractive, but sexy is not an adjective used to describe me. It could be my inherent awkwardness. The red face from embarrassment of course, but also stress, spicy food, coffee, alcohol…basically any first date would turn me into a breathing tomato. Then there’s the sord wumbles. I mean, the word stumbles. When I am anxious my jaw twitches which subsequently causes me to worry that the person noticed I am freakin’ twitching. So I get even more nervous and “I like lemonade” comes out of my stupid twitching mouth. I forget that I am actually literate and articulate and know significantly more words in the English language than “cool” and “awesome” and “omg really”.

I really wanted this blog to be about how being yourself is the sexiest you can be…but the truth is there are just some of us who can’t fake it ‘til we make it like the saying goes. So women, I suggest lots of cleavage and men, I suggest pinteresting conversation topics or super cute things to do. (Fan club, I am kidding!)

In all seriousness though, I do think some of us are naturally awkward and maybe we are all soul mates solely for each other but no…I think we can date the so-called “normals”. We are not “rejects”, we are something even better- “quirky”. It’s my favourite definition of myself! I accept that I am going to go red, that I am going to say something completely irrelevant (if understandable), and this makes me my quirky self! I think sexy is accepting yourself for who you are, not because you have that natural thing called charisma. (You lucky people!) Charisma certainly helps, but if you are reeking of insecurity anyway then it won’t get you very far in the sexy world either.

So fellow quirky people, I want to tell you that I think being sexy is overrated and what is appealing is your personality and self-confidence, so work those quirks to your advantage!

About the Author

Tara Richardson is a Peer Support Specialist at Ontario Shores Centre for Mental Health Sciences in Whitby, Ontario. Her own personal journey through mental illness has led her to be a passionate and dedicated advocate for mental health recovery. Tara is an aspiring author who is in the (long) process of writing and editing her memoir compiled from journal entries beginning at age 11. Tara has a B.A. in Psychology, a diploma in Social Service Work, and a certificate in Cognitive Behavior Therapy. Tara can be contacted at: tara_richardson913@hotmail.com Non-creepy fan mail gladly welcomed.